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Rays of Hope: 59 Self-Harm Quotes to Light Your Way to Healing


Finding yourself in a place so dark that the only sliver of control seems to come from self-harm is a reality too many people understand, and it’s brought to light in these self-harm quotes.

It’s a bewildering space where the act of self-inflicted pain—be it through cutting, burning, or any form of self-injury—becomes a desperate measure to quiet the turmoil inside.

This is not about seeking attention or being dramatic; it’s about managing the kind of pain that feels too vast and too deep to articulate. It’s about creating a type of pain you feel you can control, in contrast to the relentless, unchosen suffering that life seems to throw your way.

The quotes about self-harm we’ve gathered here aren’t just words; they’re echoes of survival, resilience, and hope. They remind us that though our pain might be profound, we’re not walking this path alone. Each sentence, each word serves as a beacon for those still searching for their way out of the darkness, offering solace and solidarity.

Why Read Self-Harm Quotes?

The statistics around self-harm are both shocking and heart-wrenching. The World Health Organization notes that there are about 800 instances of self-harm per 100,000 people each year worldwide.

Especially among teens in the United States, nearly 2 million cases are reported annually, painting a picture of a silent epidemic that weaves through our communities, often unnoticed. These numbers speak to the profound struggles many face in isolation, struggling to find a voice for their pain.

But there’s hope beyond the hurt. Recovery isn’t just a possibility; it’s a promise waiting on the horizon for those ready to reach out for it. And while the path may be marked with challenges, there are countless steps you can take that lead away from self-harm and towards healing.

Finding alternatives to self-harm is a crucial part of this journey. Whether it’s through the endorphin release of a long run, the cathartic flow of painting or writing, the gentle mindfulness of meditation, or the supportive space of therapy—there are ways to navigate through the pain without causing more harm.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), in particular, have shown great promise in helping individuals understand and manage the emotions that drive them toward self-harm.

And for anyone feeling lost in this battle, know that reaching out for help is a strength, not a weakness. Crisis text lines (like texting CONNECT to 741741 in the United States) offer an immediate, anonymous lifeline. Mental health professionals are ready to stand by your side, guiding you with compassion and understanding as you find your way back to yourself.

So, if you find yourself on this winding road, remember your pain doesn’t have to define your story. There’s a world of support waiting to embrace you, to show you that your scars are not marks of shame but badges of survival.

Within you lies an indomitable spirit, capable of not just overcoming this pain but transforming it into a testament of your strength and your ability to heal.

Self-Harm Quotes About Physical Pain & Comfort: The Paradox

People who suffer from self-harming tendencies deal with painful emotions and use it as a coping mechanism.

Inflicting self-injury means they feel it then get a reprieve from their immense inner turmoil, if only for a short period of time.

  • “This pain is comfort. It is the solace of physicality, like a touch.” ― Johnny Rich

  • “Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” ― J.K. Rowling

  • “I can feel the hurt. There’s something good about it. Mostly it makes me stop remembering.” ― Albert Borris

  • “You don’t feel like you’re hurting yourself when you’re cutting. You feel like this is the only way to take care of yourself.” ― Marilee Strong

  • “I am so angry all the time, and so sad, and it screams inside me and never stops. Cutting is the only thing that eases me.” ― Zoë Marriott

  • “That’s when I wanted to cut. I cut to quiet the cacophony. I cut to end this abstracted agony, to reel myself back to one present and physical whole, whose blood was the proof of her tangibility.” ― Caroline Kettlewell

  • “My hand no longer trembled out of fear, but out of anticipation. I knew I was addicted to the rush it provided, to the release it provided from the emotional mess I had become, but I didn’t care. It wasn’t drugs. It was just a few cuts on my arm.” ― S.M. Koz

  • “Night after night I inflict abuse on myself, even drawing blood. It’s strangely calming. I know the pain will stop whenever I want. I was the one who decided when it should start; I will be the one to decide when it stops. However much it hurts, I draw some comfort from the idea that I’m in control.” ― Maude Julien

  • “When you have a persistent sense of heartbreak and gut-wrench, the physical sensations become intolerable and we will do anything to make those feelings disappear. And that is really the origin of what happens in human pathology. People take drugs to make it disappear, and they cut themselves to make it disappear, and they starve themselves to make it disappear, and they have sex with anyone who comes along to make it disappear and once you have these horrible sensations in your body, you’ll do anything to make it go away.” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk

Scars as Symbols of Survival and Strength

The following self-harm quotes connect the scars of self-mutilation with the truth that scars can also be a reminder of our personal growth and powerful symbols of survival.

Instead of feeling ashamed of self-injury scars, we should begin to see them as undeniable proof that we are still alive and that life did not break us.

  • “The scars you can’t see are the ones that hurt the most.”― Michelle Hodkin

  • “We all bear scars,… Mine just happen to be more visible than most.” — Sarah J. Maas

  • “Your scars are battle wounds, but you don’t see them that way. Yet.” ― Tammara Webber

  • “Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength, move on.” – Henry Rollins

  • “Scars don’t matter, little one. They are the marks of the battles we have won.” – Helen Dunmore

  • “Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.” — Rikki Rogers

  • “Don’t ever forget you are beautiful, although your life, your past and your present situation may be ugly. You are beautiful.” ― Ricky Maye

  • “I wear my self-harm scars proudly. They represent the battles through which I have gone, and I am proud because those battles I have won.” — Aly

  • “To me, I see scars of courage. Inflicting them gave him the strength to survive the pain that’s plagued him all his life. I’m grateful to every one of them because he’s still here with me.” ― Nicola Haken

  • “Other times, I look at my scars and see something else: a girl who was trying to cope with something horrible that she should never have had to live through at all. My scars show pain and suffering, but they also show my will to survive. They’re part of my history that’ll always be there.” ― Cheryl Rainfield

  • “My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present.” – Steve Goodier

Self-Harm Quotes About Control & Understanding

People self-harm often to gain control over a world of feelings that seem uncontrollable.

Some of these quotes are a helpful reminder that at the heart of self-harming is a desire for relief and control, and we can help by offering understanding and acceptance.

  • “Self-injury is a sign of distress, not madness.” ― Corey Anderson

  • “Self-harm – the world will come at you with knives anyway. You do not need to beat them to it.” ― Caitlin Moran

  • “I no longer have any fear of pain because I’m the one inflicting it and can decide when it stops.” ― Maude Julien

  • “As convincing as it may seem, physical pain often arises merely to distract us from emotional pain.” Charles F. Glassman

  • “People say things meant to rip you in half but you hold the power to not turn their words into a knife and cut yourself.” ― Rupi Kaur

  • “It’s important to keep in mind that most people have no idea how to respond effectively to someone who self-harms.” ― Kim L. Gratz

  • Self-mutilation is a very different issue to suicide. It is a controlled pain personal to you, allowing you to live/exist to some degree.” ― Richy Edwards

  • “When clients self-harm, for example, these days, we understand their actions to be instinctive, rather than thought out—an effort to regulate or relieve, rather than punish.” ― Janina Fisher

  • “She felt so much emotionally, she would say, that a physical outlet – physical pain – was the only way to make her internal pain go away. It was the only way she could control it.” ― Richelle Mead

  • “As we begin to see that people who self-harm can be found in nearly every neighborhood, school, college, house of worship, or school group, we must become better informed so that we can better understand their language of pain and help them find a way out of their suffering.” – Marilee Strong

  • “You might imagine that a person would resort to self-mutilation only under extremes of duress, but once I’d crossed that line the first time, taken that fateful step off the precipice, then almost any reason was a good enough reason, almost any provocation was provocation enough. Cutting was my all-purpose solution.” ― Caroline Kettlewell

    Hope for Moving Beyond Self-Harming

    This section brings together quotes that shine a light on the journey out of the darkness of self-injury.

    It’s crucial to remember that the act of self-harming is only a small portion of a larger battle with pain, emotions, and, often, a deep-seated struggle with self-esteem.

  • “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” – Rumi

  • “I found out to wait it out that it gets better. I wrote music instead of going to the blade.” ― Vic Fuentes

  • “Facing it, always facing it, that’s the way to get through. Face it.” – Conrad Joseph

  • “If you can sit with your pain, listen to your pain and respect your pain — in time you will move through your pain.” – Bryant McGill

  • “When you feel at sea in an abyss of emotions, reconnecting to the beauty of your soul can be difficult, but it is never impossible.” ― Lorraine Nilon

  • “This might surprise you, but one of the best ways to manage your emotions is simply to experience that emotion and let it run its course.” ― Kim L. Gratz

  • If you want to help people, ask why they are in so much pain that they are driven (there’s that word again) to escape from it through ultimately self-harming habits or substances.” ― Timothy Ferriss

  • “Self-harm or substance abuse being common ways in which BPD sufferers tend to block their unwanted emotions; this is not weakness but simply that the condition makes it so difficult to regulate your reactions.” — Emily Laven

  • If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation. Which is why it is essential that we not respond impulsively to impressions; take a moment before reacting, and you will find it easier to maintain control.” ― Epictetus

  • Never feel this bad again. Never come back to this place, where only a knife will do. Live a gentle and kind life. Don’t do things that make you want to hurt yourself. Whatever you do, every day, remember this – then steer away from here.” ― Caitlin Moran

  • “Having a strong urge is like having a child throw a temper tantrum inside you, screaming “Hurt yourself!” But if you repeatedly ignore the urge’s request and don’t harm yourself, your brain will learn that urges don’t work, just as a child learns that throwing a tantrum won’t work.” ― Kim L. Gratz

    More Self-Injury Quotes

    These self-harm quotes delve deeper into the multifaceted nature of self-harm, exploring its physical and mental aspects. Here, we gain insight from those who have navigated the turbulent waters of self-injury, highlighting the journey towards understanding, healing, and ultimately, self-respect.

  • “I will no longer mutilate and destroy myself in order to find a secret behind the ruins.” — Hermann Hesse

  • “A lot is being done to cure physical self-harm, and yet it’s a by-product of mental self-harm!” — Maddy Malhotra

  • “Rehashing thoughts of painful events from the past or imagining negative events of the future is self-abuse and can be more destructive than physical harm.” ― Maddy Malhotra

  • “Self-harm is an addiction and it’s serious whether it’s 5 cuts or 100. I myself have dealt with self-harm. I was young and alone and got beat up on all the time, and I cut to ease the pain.” — Vic Fuentes

  • “We both knew what it was to hurt our bodies. It’s a strange reason to bond with someone, but I think we both needed to feel understood, and, even though we couldn’t love ourselves, we could love each other.” ― Melissa C. Water

  • If you take drugs to feel numb and it becomes an addiction that you can’t break, you’ve self-harmed. When you starve yourself or binge eat to fit the latest fashions, you’re pushing your body further than it can go.” — Carrie Hope

  • “We need to start treating ourselves how we deserve to be treated, even if you feel that no one else does. Prove to the world you ARE worth something by treating yourself with the utmost respect and hope that other people will follow your example. And even if they don’t, at least one person in the world is treating you well: YOU.” – Carrie Hope Fletcher

  • “We all have scars; both inside and out. Use your experience to support those who are going down the same road of destruction you once went down. Know that your past is worth more than the pain you once carried, because it can now be used to comfort and give strength to another soul who is suffering. Cherish your trials and tribulations as gifts; embrace these opportunities to share the grace you have been given.” – Katie Maslin

Self-Harm & Internal Pain

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Self-harm manifests in many forms, and sometimes we don’t even know we’re doing it. Internal pain is a common thread that connects us all as humans.

  • “Throughout it all, you are still, always, you: beautiful and bruised, known and unknowable.” ― Leila Sales

  • “I asked her if she believed in love, and she smiled and said it was her most elaborate method of self-harm.” ― Benedict Smith

  • “How will you know I am hurting, if you cannot see my pain? To wear it on my body tells what words cannot explain.” — C. Blount

  • “I cut myself because you wouldn’t let me cry. I cried because you wouldn’t let me speak. I spoke because you wouldn’t let me shine. I shone because I thought you loved me…” ― Emilie Autumn

  • “In case you didn’t know, dead people don’t bleed. If you can bleed-see it, feel it-then you know you’re alive. It’s irrefutable, undeniable proof. Sometimes I just need a little reminder.” ― Amy Efaw

  • “If someone can prove me wrong and show me my mistake in any thought or action, I shall gladly change. I seek the truth, which never harmed anyone: the harm is to persist in one’s own self-deception and ignorance.” ― Marcus Aurelius

  • “There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.” —Anthon St. Maarten

  • “Self-harm is not a grab for attention. It doesn’t mean you are suicidal. It means you are struggling to get out of a very dangerous mess in your mind and heart and this is your coping mechanism. It means that you occupy a small space in the very real and very large canyon of people who suffer from depression or mental illness.” — Kathleen Glasgow

  • “One of the things that strikes me most though is how some people don’t realize they’re self-harming. The phrase ‘self-harm’ brings up thoughts of ‘cutting’, but that’s only a small portion of it. When you drink excessively to drown your sorrows to the point you throw up and can’t see straight and/or, like a girl at my school, ended up being driven to hospital to have her stomach pumped, you’ve brought harm to yourself.” — Carrie Hope Fletcher

Illuminating the Path Forward

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As we wrap up this collection of powerful self-harm quotes, we hope you’ve found solace, understanding, and perhaps a spark of hope. Each quote is like a small light in the darkness, shared by those who’ve navigated their own difficult paths of self-injury, reminding us that healing is not only possible but within reach.

The voices shared here, from those who have walked this path before, illuminate the way forward with empathy and wisdom, offering rays of hope to light the way past self-harm. Remember, your story doesn’t end with pain; it continues with the strength you muster each day to face your struggles and the compassion you show yourself and others on this journey.

While the road to healing from self-harm may be fraught with challenges, it is also lined with moments of profound resilience and courage. The journey doesn’t have to be defined by pain; it’s also about the strength you find in yourself every day and the kindness you extend to yourself and others along the way.

Did you find any inspiring words in this list of self-harm quotes?

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